Ethical Marketing for Coaches: Inspire Trust and Create Impact

Wise Goose Founder and Director Helen Sieroda shares some thoughts about the importance of ethical marketing for coaches, touches on marketing snares and snags and offers a some suggestions for marketing with integrity.

Over the past few weeks, we’ve been preparing for our 2025 BCorp recertification, this happens every three year. It’s a rigorous process and treading water for three years isn’t an option. We need to demonstrate a journey of continuous improvement.

There are some areas where we are already doing better, and places where we need to improve. Going through our impact assessment I realised that Wise Goose didn’t have a written marketing policy. We are small, and maybe we don’t need a policy, but it started me thinking about the importance of aligning marketing strategies with our core values and mission.

We do our best to live our values through the way we do business and talk about our work, but I’ve not really thought about this as marketing. This is probably because I’m definitely not a marketing expert. In fact, I’m ambivalent about a lot of the ‘hype’ that gets generated in marketing .

I may not be a marketing guru, but I do want to build a business that’s sustainable and makes a profit. For me, learning to be okay with marketing is about embracing being a business owner, and building effective systems that can create real lasting success. So what’s been my problem?

Someone who helped me to understand my ambivalence was Mats Alvesson. In his book The Triumph of Emptiness,  he demystifies popular, upbeat claims about branding in higher education, organisational change, professionalisation, leadership and coaching. He argues that a culture of grandiosity is leading to numerous inflated claims as organisations focus excessively on image, brand, visibility at the expense of substance and genuine value. 

Inflated claims that over-promise and under-deliver can easily sneak into the marketing of coaching and coach training. With this in mind, ethical marketing is not just a strategy—it’s a commitment to authenticity, transparency, and genuine engagement, ideally to serve worthwhile purposes., or as Simon Western for the Eco Leadership Institute puts it Coaching to act in ‘good faith’ to create the ‘good society’. This can apply to pretty much any coach, whatever their niche, so I hope the following suggestions will resonate whether you are a life coach, executive coach, career, wellness, relationship or any other kind of coach.

Transparent Practices

Transparency is crucial in building trust. Focus on providing honest and accurate information that helps potential clients make informed decisions. Be clear about your coaching methods, pricing, and what clients can expect from your services. When I designed the Wise Goose website ‘experts’ told me to leave out the ‘fees and dates’ page. I was determined to make it easy for potential students to have the information they needed to compare us with other training providers and make a confident and clear choice about their next steps.

Genuine Engagement

At the heart of ethical marketing is genuine relationship and engagement. This means interacting with all stakeholders (not just potential clients) in a way that is sincere and meaningful. Rather than viewing potential clients as mere leads, or ‘prospects’ see them as individuals with unique needs, challenges and aspirations. Encourage thoughtful conversations, give personalised responses, and show genuine interest in their hopes and dreams and aspirations. This is what coaching is all about, so hardly needs saying!  But sometimes, even though it seems obvious it’s challenging; for example if I really want more clients, the focus easily shifts from what’s best for them to my needs. I might feel under pressure to try hard to sell my services and ‘convert’ them rather than focus on where they want to go and if and how I might help them get there. If I think a client would be better served by another coach, or another training programme I say so and refer to someone who could be a better ‘fit’. But sometimes, turning away business feels like losing out- and that’s hard.

Building a Community

Hiding your light under a bushel, and waiting for the world to come knocking on your door won’t work and is one of the biggest pitfalls new coaches fall into. You need to let the world know what you do! Aim to build genuine relationships and to connect with other coaches and professionals not just potential clients. Attend workshops, and webinars, go to training sessions, read books then go and talk to friends and colleagues about them. After meeting someone you have a connection to, follow up with a personalised message to show are genuinely interested in staying connected. Partner with other coaches, therapists, or consultants to offer joint programs or workshops. Collaboration can expand your reach and introduce you to new audiences. Wise Goose has thrived through collaboration, not all have been successful, but all have been worth exploring. The word-of-mouth referrals that come our way through our community are incredibly powerful, it’s the foundation our business is built on.

The Power of Storytelling

Share stories that highlight your values, experiences, approach and the impact of your coaching (with permission and respecting confidentiality.)  Testimonials are a powerful way of illustrating how your coaching has helped clients achieve their goals. They can demonstrate the tangible benefits of your services. Rather than trying to explain what coaching is in theory, find ways to show how you are offering a clear path forwards that can lead to real, positive change and results. It’s totally possible to do this while being honest and avoiding the temptation of creating a glossy front on your work.  

Education and Expertise

Share your interests and knowledge through blogs, videos, articles, webinars, podcasts and workshops. Write or speak, depending on your strengths and preferences. Provide educational content that helps your audience understand how you can address their specific needs. It’s a place to share your approach, and focus on how your coaching process works and can help them get from where they are to where they want to be. This not only positions you as an ‘expert’ but builds trust, allowing you to interact with potential clients and other professionals in a meaningful way.

I know social media can be a powerful tool for ethical marketing but it’s not my favourite place and I don’t engage enough. So on this topic I encourage you to “do as I say not as I do” – use it to share valuable content, engage with your audience, and build your brand presence. Focus on creating content that educates, inspires, and adds value. Join relevant groups and participate in discussions – be generous – comment on others’ posts and engage with your community regularly.

Social and Environmental Responsibility

Incorporating social and environmental responsibility into your marketing strategy reflects a commitment to broader values. Highlight your efforts to support sustainable practices, contribute to social causes, and promote ethical behaviour. This a big part of our brand at Wise Goose, it resonates with clients who share similar values. Over the years I’ve learned that though it might put some people off, in the end it means we get to work with the people who are a good ‘fit’ with our approach and values – and that is a real joy!

In a nutshell, gaining attention, generating a buzz, showcasing your services and values, and creating traffic that can significantly boost the growth of your business is a primary purpose of marketing.

This begs the question – when you have a business that’s growing how much growth is enough? Just like any industry coaching can play into the myth of endless growth, feeding consumerism with life denying, planet depleting consequences. What kind of growth is good growth? What purposes does all that coaching serve? What if growth is not the only story? What is a good life – for us as coaches or for our clients?  

Coaching can be part of the problem or part of the solution.

As coaches we have a powerful frameworks, structures, tools and techniques to help clients work towards their goals. We can do this while helping them explore new ways to be in the world, find new stories to tell about what matters, and consider the differences between surface wants, and deeper needs., We can help a client focus on transactional goals to achieve immediate tasks, and at the same time hold wider transformational goals to drive long-term growth and development. This isn’t about preaching or telling our clients what they should want, or how they should be. It’s about holding the bigger picture, inviting exploration, so they can discover what’s important, choose where they want to go and how to get there.

I want to finish with ‘worthwhile purposes’ I mentioned earlier. Over ten years ago on a Dartmoor walk, Jonathan Wise shared his story of waking up to the negative impact of his work in advertising, how he quit in the middle of a recession, and his journey towards getting people in the industry to ask tough questions about purpose. Marketing and advertising aren’t the same thing, but they are close cousins. This video from Jonathan and his associates at ‘Purpose Disruptors’ is aimed at the advertising industry, but there’s a lot here that’s relevant to our work as coaches, especially the exploration of ‘The Good Life 2030.’

Time To Celebrate International Women’s Day!

As this International Women’s Day comes around, I’ve been casting my mind back to women who have been my teachers over the years, right back to Mrs MacLean in Primary school who gave the shy, sickly little girl I was in those days space to shine.

In my early 20s I met Miss Rose Li, an elderly Chinese woman and Martial Arts master who I trained with for a over a decade. I’d get up at 5am to practice TaiChi and HsingI before catching the train to London – then I’d get home in the evening and practice again – oh for the energy of youth!

Miss Li is the girl on the right in the front row, flanked by her WuShu family. Miss Li taught me Mandarin too, on the commute I’d listen to language tapes, I’ve forgotten pretty much all of my Chinese but I still have the Beijing accent I picked up from her. Sadly I drifted away after I’d been through some big life changes and we lost touch. A generous and humble teacher, she was instrumental in bringing Internal Martial Arts to the West, at the time I didn’t realise how famous and revered she was! I wish I’d kept up the TaiChi, but I didn’t. I’ve recently taken it up again, and I have to admit it’s hard to be faced with all the skill I abandoned. I never let go of my love of Daoism which still influences my worldview today.

Judith Firman and Diana Whitmore were my Psychosynthesis trainers back in the 1980s . I’m no longer in touch with Judith, but forty years on I still work with Diana. We’ve been on quite a journey together and feel blessed to count her a friend as well as a wise and trusted colleague. Her dedication and her work with young people is an inspiration..

I first met the amazing Joanna Macy in 1987. She introduced me to Gaia Theory, Deep Ecology, Buddhism and a systemic approach; all of which continue to flow through the my work today.  I trained with her, and was part of a facilitation team working alongside her at the Findhorn Foundation back in the early 1990s. After a few years my work went in a different direction, but our paths would cross from time to time, at workshops, conferences and other events; meeting her was always a joy. She’s in her 90s now, and as inspiring as ever!

Then there’s Margo Russell. I joined Margo when she founded Psykosynthes Akademin in Sweden in 1989. She was an outstanding, inspiring trainer and a beautiful human being. Margo took me under her wing, mentoring, encouraging and challenging me. I wouldn’t be doing the work I do today without her. We worked alongside each other until her death in 2001. She was only 62. I still miss her humour, fiery intelligence, friendship and irrepressible, irreplaceable spirit. The Swedish Akademin was my core work for 25 years, an enriching part of my life that happened because of Margo.

Last but not least, Sue Farebrother, my oldest friend. Over the years we navigated births, and deaths, marriage and divorce, we saw the best of each other, and probably worst of each other too. She wasn’t a ‘teacher’ as such, but we never stopped learning together. Almost fifty years worth of friendship – such a gift. Sue died in 2022.

Having started this account I realise just how many women friends colleagues have inspired and supported me over the years. Too many to mention, but I will mention two; Sybille Schiffmann chair of Wise Goose who has just gained her PhD (she deserves a medal for putting up with my bad jokes about every meeting with her being a doctor’s appointment now.) The other is Josie Sutcliffe who, every International Women’s day hosts Occupy the Airwaves – a marathon 16 hours of live broadcasting from 8am until midnight on Phonic FM, Exeter’s community radio station. Josie definitely deserves a cheer for the amazing job she does.

The list could go on and on. Basically I wouldn’t be where I am, or who I am today without the generosity of a whole host of women and the gifts and love they have given to me. So, for this years International Women’s Day I want to celebrate the contributions of all the women I know and have known – you inspire me in so many ways as you work to forge a better world, and you have definitely made my world a better place.

Who are your women teachers past and present? I encourage you to join me in taking a few moments to celebrate them today.

Moving Beyond The ‘Blame Game’

I can’t believe we are heading towards the Autumn equinox and the marking of the transition between seasons. There’s definitely that back to school/ work feeling in the air. This week I’ll be driving my son back to Brighton for the start of his final year at the University of Sussex. 

This year it’s a transition that I have mixed feelings about, with news of a virus storm brewing on university campuses and knowing he will be returning to face more uncertainty, disruption and social distancing. Young adults generally are more likely to suffer the long-term consequences of economic downturn, more likely to have lost their jobs or been furloughed, more likely to live in cramped shared housing; more likely to suffer Covid related mental health issues. There’s been a lot of talk about impacts of the pandemic on children, the elderly and businesses but impacts on young people and how to support them seems to be largely ignored and this troubles me.

Given my concerns, a couple of days ago when I heard Matt Hancock laying the blame on young people for the Covid spike, I felt angry. I wanted to blame him.

My rant began something like this: “How dare you shift the blame. It’s your fault they took advantage of ‘eat out to help out’ and heeded the prime minister, who said it was a ‘patriotic duty’ to go to the pub.  Your mixed messages made this mess, and so Mr Hancock, YOU are to blame for your governments chaotic, incompetent response to Covid19.”

My reaction got me thinking. In this tirade, the fact that quite a few young adults have been casual about social distancing, and the question of how best to do something about the risks is simply not part of my picture.  I’m off, on my high horse, lashing out at full speed, sucked into the ‘Blame Game’. What just happened?

Blame it turns out, is contagious, it spreads like a virus. A 2010 study from USC into ‘blame contagion’ showed that pointing fingers at others is not only infectious, it is amplified when trust is low and seems to be eliminated when people feel valued and appreciated. In other words, being blamed for things that are not our fault and not receiving acknowledgement and the credit that we deserve are entangled.

How the credit/ blame game is played is a key ingredient of organisational cultures, for better or for worse. I often meet clients who work in organisations with rampant cultures of blame. These are places where dishing out blame, unfair attacks or credit grabbing hijack energy and distract from tackling problems. Teams and organizations with a culture of blame have an uphill struggle when it comes to encouraging learning, creativity, innovation and productive risk-taking. Blame is an excellent defence mechanism, by avoiding looking at our own flaws and failings, blame protects our self-image. However, research shows that people who blame others for their mistakes lose status, learn less, and have poorer performance compared to those who own up to their mistakes. The pattern is so destructive, whether you are a coach or a leader, blame is something to be alert to, because in the end playing the blame game never works.  

The blame game is lazy. It’s easier to blame someone else than to recognise and accept responsibility for the part you play in a messy situation. Becoming blame-savvy requires effort, changing behaviour so you don’t repeat mistakes involves work.  Creating psychological safety is one of the most important things a coach or leader can do to stop the blame game but this takes awareness, time and commitment. Here are a few potential places to start:

  • Avoid collusion. By setting the right example and not joining in with the game, you can help grow awareness and model collaborative problem-solving rather than defensiveness and finger-pointing.
  • Own up to your mistakes.  When you make a mistake, it is tempting to shore up the illusion of our own self-worth and blame someone else.  Instead, say sorry when you are wrong, you are not omnipotent, face up to the reality that you are not always right. When you don’t pass the buck, you gain respect and help to prevent a culture of blame.
  • Focus on learning and creating a ‘growth’ mindset. This is where learning from — rather than avoiding mistakes — is the priority. This helps ensure that people feel free to ‘own up’, discuss and learn from their errors.
  • Pause. Take a breath. Step back. If you’re facing a “blame-thrower” or “credit-grabber” a good first response is to pause. We all tend to cast blame; it is often a subconscious process; the blame game might not be personal. What is behind the game? What might be triggering your reaction? This is where talking to someone outside of work, a coach or trusted colleague will help you gain perspective and distance make strategic decisions about your response.
  • When you do blame, do it constructively. Accountability is important and there are definitely times when people’s mistakes need to be raised in public. In these cases, make sure to emphasise that the goal is to learn from mistakes, not to publicly humiliate those who make them. As a manager, peer or coach, be careful not to use feedback as a sneaky way of dishing out blame.

Author of The Blame Game Ben Dattner summarises it like this: “We all want to be recognised for our effort and accomplishments, and we resist being blamed when things don’t go right. This leads to habitual patterns of credit and blame at work. […] The most successful leaders are able to see their role in the blame game, admit mistakes and focus on fixing rather than blaming.” 

Do you recognise the Blame Game?

Entertaining uninvited guests

Written in the 13th century, this poem an oldie, but goodie. Though overused in mindfulness circles to the point of becoming a cliché, it’s still a beautiful reminder to meet, accept and respect the myriad of visitors I’ve been entertaining as COVID19 lock-down sweeps my house empty of furniture.  So here’s a virtual cup of tea for our uninvited guests. With all my love, Helen

The Guest House

This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.

A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
as an unexpected visitor.

Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they are a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still, treat each guest honourably.
He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.

The dark thought, the shame, the malice.
meet them at the door laughing and invite them in.

Be grateful for whatever comes.
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.

Jellaludin Rumi
Rumi: Selected Poems, trans Coleman Barks with John Moynce, A. J. Arberry, Reynold Nicholson (Penguin Books, 2004)

Employee engagement – seven tips for success

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Coaching to cope with cutbacks

MOT pictureFor those working in the public sector right now horizons are changing at lightning speed.  We are in transition, lean thinking, SMART working, value for money, quality improvement, downsizing, down shifting, performance reviews and restructuring.  The reality is that the flows are changing, the world of delivery is changing, and the seasons are closing in. It is exciting, innovating, frightening and never before has VFM been so critical.

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